{"id":2828,"date":"2022-04-04T10:18:00","date_gmt":"2022-04-04T07:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/?p=2828"},"modified":"2025-11-17T20:56:59","modified_gmt":"2025-11-17T17:56:59","slug":"sa-crestem-copii-cu-valori-sau-nevoia-de-a-construi-caractere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/sa-crestem-copii-cu-valori-sau-nevoia-de-a-construi-caractere\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u0103 cre\u0219tem copii cu valori                                                               Nevoia de a construi caractere"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201e<\/strong><em>Familia este \u0219coala \u00een care e\u0219ti deopotriv\u0103 profesor \u0219i elev.\u201d \u2013 <\/em>Ioan Gyuri Pascu <strong>\u201e<\/strong>Valorile reprezint\u0103 priorit\u0103\u021bi care \u00ee\u021bi spun cum s\u0103-\u021bi petreci timpul, aici \u0219i acum.\u201d\u00a0Sau, mai aplicat:\u00a0\u201eValorile ac\u021bioneaz\u0103 ca un compas al timpului, al energiei \u0219i al rela\u021biilor, ca o busol\u0103 care ne pune \u00eenapoi pe drumul pe care \u00een fiecare zi ne apropiem de defini\u021bia noastr\u0103 de <em>cea mai<\/em>\u00a0<em>bun\u0103 via\u021b\u0103 pe care mi-o pot construi<\/em>\u201d.\u00a0(George Bragadireanu \u2013 \u201e<em>Valori personale \u0219i cum le putem folosi<\/em>\u201d)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&nbsp;Ele sunt ceea ce o persoan\u0103 apreciaz\u0103 cel mai mult \u00een via\u021b\u0103, ne determin\u0103 comportamentele \u0219i ac\u021biunile, dar \u0219i cele pe care le punem \u00een bagajul nostru prin ani.&nbsp;Iar p\u0103rin\u021bii, din aceast\u0103 perspectiv\u0103, f\u0103uresc oameni \u00een devenire, oferindu-le aceste valori, care r\u0103m\u00e2n parte a personalit\u0103\u021bii noastre pe care o numim caracter; dob\u00e2ndit prin educa\u021bie, acesta ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 ne pozi\u021bion\u0103m fa\u021b\u0103 de <em>bine<\/em>&nbsp;\u0219i <em>r\u0103u<\/em>. Caracterul se formeaz\u0103 prin \u00eenv\u0103\u021bare, prin experimentare, fiind modelat de convingeri ce se pot modifica pe parcursul vie\u021bii, \u00een func\u021bie de evenimentele tr\u0103ite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unde lu\u0103m primele lec\u021bii despre toate acestea? Unde altundeva dec\u00e2t \u00een familie?! \u00cen familie, \u00een s\u00e2nul c\u0103reia \u00eencepem s\u0103 primim mesaje referitoare la modul \u00een care descoperim lumea, s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 fim \u00eempreun\u0103, s\u0103 realiz\u0103m ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 respectul, iubirea, ajutorul, \u00eencrederea, generozitatea, comunicarea, adev\u0103rul, morala, spiritualitatea etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce se \u00een\u021belege prin &nbsp;<em>valorile familiei<\/em>? Orice familie are propriile convingeri despre lume \u0219i via\u021b\u0103. Aceste convingeri creeaz\u0103 atmosfera \u00een care cre\u0219tem \u0219i noi \u0219i \u00een &nbsp;care \u00eei vom cre\u0219te \u0219i pe copiii no\u0219tri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Responsabilitatea, iubirea de oameni, exprimarea emo\u021biilor, r\u0103bdarea, siguran\u021ba \u0219i suportul emo\u021bional, empatia, \u00eencrederea, sinceritatea, adev\u0103rul \u0219i curajul de a alege adev\u0103rul, statutul moral, stima de sine, respectul pentru ceilal\u021bi, sus\u021binerea, generozitatea, polite\u021bea, autonomia, comunicarea, cooperarea, cuv\u00e2ntul dat, integritatea, compasiunea, acceptarea, sunt c\u00e2teva din valorile, \u00een care ne model\u0103m copiii, nu doar prin faptul c\u0103 le aducem la cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 aceste valori, ci &nbsp;prin practicarea lor, \u00een fiecare zi, \u00een familie \u0219i \u00een afara ei, prin aceea c\u0103 &nbsp;noi \u00een\u0219ine punem \u00een oper\u0103 aceste valori. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen rela\u021bia cu copiii lor, p\u0103rin\u021bii doresc s\u0103 fie iubitori, r\u0103bd\u0103tori, binevoitori, toleran\u021bi, one\u0219ti, corec\u021bi, responsabili, genero\u0219i etc., dar, adesea, neinten\u021bionat, ei pot gre\u0219i, transmi\u021b\u00e2ndu-le &nbsp;copiilor propriile prejudec\u0103\u021bi \u0219i predispozi\u021bii emo\u021bionale, fie din ne\u0219tiin\u021b\u0103, fie din fric\u0103. Este nevoie de curaj, de con\u0219tiin\u021b\u0103, ca s\u0103 \u00eenl\u0103tur\u0103m toate acele cli\u0219ee disfunc\u021bionale, care ajung s\u0103 ne controleze rela\u021bia cu copilul, f\u0103r\u0103 ca noi, p\u0103rin\u021bii, s\u0103 ne d\u0103m seama. Este nevoie de asumare, de curaj, pentru a tr\u0103i \u00een mod con\u0219tient, cu inten\u021bia clar\u0103 de a ne cre\u0219te copiii s\u0103n\u0103to\u0219i, ferici\u021bi (acum, dar \u0219i c\u00e2nd vor fi mari) \u0219i preg\u0103ti\u021bi pentru via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Care sunt primele daruri pe care le fac p\u0103rin\u021bii copiilor lor, \u00eenc\u0103 de la primele ore de via\u021b\u0103?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Aten\u021bie, iubire, grij\u0103<\/em><\/strong>. Acestea sunt daruri necondi\u021bionate. Acestea sunt nevoi pe care copilul le are permanent, \u00een rela\u021bia psihologic\u0103 dintre el \u0219i p\u0103rinte, \u00een conectarea lor emo\u021bional\u0103. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Urmeaz\u0103 apoi, nevoile specifice ale copilului: <strong><em>Aprecierile oneste \u0219i respectul<\/em><\/strong>. Acestea presupun valorizarea, manifestarea \u00eencrederii, recunoa\u0219terea copilului ca membru al familiei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Alte nevoi ale copilului, \u0219i nu \u00een ultimul r\u00e2nd, sunt: <strong><em>Timpul de calitate, r\u0103bdarea, consecven\u021ba \u0219i corectitudinea <\/em><\/strong><em>\u2013<\/em><strong><em>&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>nevoi ce trebuie exersate, iar \u0219i iar, &nbsp;precum &nbsp;\u0219i daruri pe care ar trebui s\u0103 le aib\u0103 copilul, \u00een bagajul vie\u021bii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Toate aceste nevoi ale copilului, toate aceste daruri, pe care orice p\u0103rinte ar trebui s\u0103 le ofere fiicei sale sau fiului s\u0103u,\u00a0conduc familia spre construirea unui model de via\u021b\u0103 ce va ajuta la s\u0103direa \u0219i definirea caracterului copilului, la \u00eenv\u0103\u021barea \u0219i \u00eensu\u0219irea acelor valori care \u00eel vor \u00eenso\u021bi pe copil \u0219i pe \u00a0care, la r\u00e2ndul lui, le va d\u0103rui familiei prezente \u0219i viitoare!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Psih<\/em><strong>. Ileana Z\u0103rnescu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Psihoterapie cognitiv \u2013 comportamental\u0103<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"566\" src=\"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-revista-februarie-2022.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2829\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-revista-februarie-2022.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-revista-februarie-2022-480x340.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 800px, 100vw\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201eFamilia este \u0219coala \u00een care e\u0219ti deopotriv\u0103 profesor \u0219i elev.\u201d \u2013 Ioan Gyuri Pascu \u201eValorile reprezint\u0103 priorit\u0103\u021bi care \u00ee\u021bi spun cum s\u0103-\u021bi petreci timpul, aici \u0219i acum.\u201d\u00a0Sau, mai aplicat:\u00a0\u201eValorile ac\u021bioneaz\u0103 ca un compas al timpului, al energiei \u0219i al rela\u021biilor, ca o busol\u0103 care ne pune \u00eenapoi pe drumul pe care \u00een fiecare zi ne [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":2830,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_crdt_document":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[33,55,57],"class_list":["post-2828","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog-appo","tag-academia-parintilor-preocupati","tag-inteligenta-emotionala","tag-psihologie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2828","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2828"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2828\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5412,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2828\/revisions\/5412"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2830"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2828"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2828"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2828"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}