{"id":2035,"date":"2020-03-24T00:21:48","date_gmt":"2020-03-23T21:21:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/?p=2035"},"modified":"2020-03-24T00:21:49","modified_gmt":"2020-03-23T21:21:49","slug":"despre-rabdare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/despre-rabdare\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre r\u0103bdare"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">      Nimic nu va mai fi la fel.Via\u021ba va fi tr\u0103it\u0103 altfel, iar noi va trebui s\u0103 ne acomod\u0103m cu acest \u201ealtfel\u201d. Pentru acest \u201ealtfel\u201d, va trebui s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m ce este r\u0103bdarea.<br>     Oare ne-am \u00eentrebat vreodat\u0103 ce este r\u0103bdarea?<br>     R\u0103bdarea este cu siguran\u021b\u0103 o virtute. Totodat\u0103, r\u0103bdarea este o abilitate, pe care o putem cre\u0219te. R\u0103bdarea este o deprindere, care devine comportament.<br>     Nu ne place s\u0103 a\u0219tept\u0103m, nu avem r\u0103bdare cu noi \u00een\u0219ine \u0219i nici cu ceilal\u021bi. Era tehnologiei ne face cu at\u00e2t mai mult s\u0103 uit\u0103m s\u0103 ne d\u0103ruim nou\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 d\u0103ruim celorlal\u021bi r\u0103bdare. Vie\u021bile noastre sunt mai aglomerate ca oric\u00e2nd. Alerg\u0103m \u00een toate p\u0103r\u021bile. Vrem ca totul s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple instantaneu. G\u00e2ndurile ne alearg\u0103 \u0219i ele \u00een toate direc\u021biile \u0219i parc\u0103 nu le putem st\u0103p\u00e2ni, nu ne putem concentra la ceea ce este important pentru noi, uit\u0103m s\u0103 ne d\u0103m timpul necesar pentru deta\u0219are. \u00centotdeauna a\u0219tept\u0103m c\u00e2te ceva, dar ne dorim ca a\u0219teptarea s\u0103 se sf\u00e2r\u0219easc\u0103 mai repede. Ne place sau nu, suntem obliga\u021bi s\u0103 a\u0219tept\u0103m, pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tim ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla peste c\u00e2teva minute, ore, zile, ani.<br>      Atunci c\u00e2nd devenim ner\u0103bd\u0103tori, \u00een loc s\u0103 lu\u0103m via\u021ba a\u0219a cum este \u0219i cum vine \u00een mod firesc, devenim irita\u021bi \u0219i nerezonabili. Ajungem s\u0103 ne agit\u0103m inutil, s\u0103 credem c\u0103 via\u021ba noastr\u0103 nu se va schimba \u00eenspre bine pentru c\u0103 ea nu se schimb\u0103 acum \u0219i aici. Lipsa r\u0103bd\u0103rii devine o surs\u0103 important\u0103 de stres. Lipsa r\u0103bd\u0103rii poate fi cauzat\u0103 tocmai de nepl\u0103cerea a\u0219tept\u0103rii a ceva anume, de dorin\u021ba de a vedea dus la cap\u0103t, un lucru care sim\u021bim c\u0103 ne epuizeaz\u0103 psihic. Impulsivitatea poate duce chiar \u0219i la involu\u021bie, c\u0103ci blocheaz\u0103 toate c\u0103ile prin care avem acces la acele solu\u021bii bine chibzuite pe care le putem ob\u021bine prin r\u0103bdare.<br>     C\u00e2nd vrem ceva prea repede \u0219i prea intens, facem gre\u0219eli lu\u00e2nd hot\u0103r\u00e2ri pripite, c\u0103ci, cel pu\u021bin pe moment, nu ne pas\u0103 prea mult de urm\u0103ri, tot ceea ce vrem este s\u0103 facem dup\u0103 cum ne duce mintea \u00een acel moment. Pentru a nu face alegeri gre\u0219ite, pentru a nu lua hot\u0103r\u00e2ri proaste, trebuie s\u0103 avem r\u0103bdare, s\u0103 ne relax\u0103m. Problemele \u0219i nereu\u0219itele cu care ne confrunt\u0103m nu vin de la o for\u021b\u0103 divin\u0103 care vrea s\u0103 ne pun\u0103 la \u00eencercare, ci din noi \u00een\u0219ine, din alegerile noastre proaste, din hot\u0103r\u00e2rile gre\u0219ite, din lipsa r\u0103bd\u0103rii. Dac\u0103 noi suntem r\u0103spunz\u0103tori de succes, \u00een mod identic, suntem responsabili \u0219i pentru e\u0219ec.<br>     C\u00e2nd lu\u0103m o hot\u0103r\u00e2re sau facem o alegere, trebuie s\u0103 fim con\u0219tien\u021bi de urm\u0103rile pe care aceasta o va avea asupra vie\u021bii noastre.  Oamenii care reu\u0219esc cel mai bine \u00een via\u021b\u0103, aceia care ob\u021bin cel mai mare succes, sunt cei care \u0219tiu s\u0103 aib\u0103 r\u0103bdare.  Ei sunt capabili s\u0103-\u0219i pun\u0103 sub semnul \u00eentreb\u0103rii opiniile, credin\u021bele, ideile, prejudec\u0103\u021bile \u2013 \u00eenainte de a lua hot\u0103r\u00e2ri; ei au r\u0103bdare s\u0103 analizeze \u0219i s\u0103 poarte monologuri interioare, pentru a afla calea potrivit\u0103. \u00cen general, cei ce reu\u0219esc \u00een via\u021b\u0103 sunt cei ce nu iau decizii \u201epripite\u201d.<br>     Practica r\u0103bd\u0103rii presupune concentrarea pe acele fa\u021bete ale realit\u0103\u021bii pe care noi le accept\u0103m cel mai greu. Exersarea r\u0103bd\u0103rii ne protejeaz\u0103 \u00eempotriva pierderii calmului, ne ajut\u0103 \u00een p\u0103strarea discern\u0103m\u00e2ntului chiar \u0219i \u00een cele mai dificile situa\u021bii. Dac\u0103 ne-am g\u00e2ndi cu aten\u021bie la ce anume putem pierde c\u00e2nd suntem ner\u0103bd\u0103tori, ne-am concentra mai mult asupra r\u0103bd\u0103rii. R\u0103bdarea este o virtute, spune credin\u021ba cre\u0219tin\u0103, \u0219i \u2013 ca orice virtute \u2013 ea trebuie practicat\u0103.<br>       Dac\u0103 sim\u021bim c\u0103 ni s-a \u201eterminat\u201d r\u0103bdarea, putem s\u0103 facem c\u00e2teva exerci\u021bii de respira\u021bie, s\u0103 num\u0103r\u0103m p\u00e2n\u0103 la zece \u0219i s\u0103 ne reamintim \u00eendemnul P\u0103rintelui Cleopa: \u201eR\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare! \u015ei c\u00e2nd sim\u0163i c\u0103 s-a g\u0103tat, iar: r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare! \u015ei iar: r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare, r\u0103bdare!\u201d<br>     Dar ce facem c\u00e2nd devenim p\u0103rin\u021bi? Aceste genera\u021bii de copii vin \u201ealtfel\u201d \u00een vie\u021bile noastre. \u201eRoti\u021bele\u201d lor se \u00eenv\u00e2rt cu o vitez\u0103 care-i bulverseaz\u0103, pe de o parte, iar pe de alt\u0103 parte, stimulii exteriori sunt din ce \u00een ce mai numero\u0219i (tehnologia \u0219i nu numai ea\u2026). Pentru a-i putea ajuta pe cei mici, trebuie s\u0103 exers\u0103m noi, adul\u021bii, trebuie s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 r\u0103bdarea!<br>      Nu este u\u0219or! Dar suntem p\u0103rin\u021bi pe via\u021b\u0103, iar cea mai de pre\u021b investi\u021bie a noastr\u0103, a p\u0103rin\u021bilor, este copilul, ne sunt copiii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/rabdarea1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2037\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/rabdarea1.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/rabdarea1-256x320.jpg 256w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>     Ce pa\u0219i ar trebui s\u0103 facem, care s\u0103 ne ajute \u00een crearea echilibrului interior? Voi enumera trei, poate ne vor ajuta!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Limita\u021bi-v\u0103 nevoia constant\u0103 de control<br>\nNevoia de control apare \u00een multe situa\u021bii. Pentru c\u0103 mintea noastr\u0103 face planuri, viseaz\u0103, \u00ee\u0219i face griji \u0219i \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 identifice oportunit\u0103\u021bi viitoare. Singurul control sau certitudine este lipsa de certitudine.Putem controla ac\u021biunile \u0219i reac\u021biile noastre, dar \u00een niciun caz nu putem controla ac\u021biunile celorlal\u021bi \u0219i, cu at\u00e2t mai pu\u021bin, reac\u021biile lor la ceea ce le transmitem. Intr\u0103m cu u\u0219urin\u021b\u0103 \u00eentr-un cerc vicios, dac\u0103 nu ne reprim\u0103m acest impuls de control.<\/li><li>Observa\u021bi-v\u0103 tiparele de entuziasm \u0219i r\u0103bdare<br>\nEntuziasmul \u0219i r\u0103bdarea sunt parte a tiparelor noastre, care s-au format \u00een timp. Reflectarea interioar\u0103 \u0219i analiza asupra reflec\u021biei interioare ne va ajuta s\u0103 ne cunoa\u0219tem mai bine.<\/li><li>Lua\u021bi-v\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 5 secunde<br>\nAceste 5 secunde de a\u0219teptare vor face diferen\u021ba , \u00een luarea unei decizii.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oamenii au uitat s\u0103 aib\u0103 r\u0103bdare. Ei doresc s\u0103 fac\u0103 totul \u00een grab\u0103. Chiar \u015fi copacii cunosc acest adev\u0103r. C\u00e2nd vine timpul s\u0103 \u00eenfloreasc\u0103, ei \u00eenfloresc. Iar c\u00e2nd vine timpul s\u0103 renun\u0163e la frunzele lor, acestea cad, ei r\u0103m\u00e2n\u00e2nd goi, sub cerul liber. R\u0103m\u00e2n frumo\u015fi chiar \u015fi \u00een goliciunea lor, a\u015ftept\u00e2nd momentul noii \u00eenfrunziri, con\u015ftien\u0163i c\u0103 vechiul s-a dus, iar noul urmeaz\u0103 s\u0103 soseasc\u0103 \u015fi \u00een cur\u00e2nd frunzele vor \u00eencepe s\u0103 le creasc\u0103 din nou. \u2014 Osho <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/rabdarea.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2036\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/rabdarea.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.anastasiapopescu.ro\/liceu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/rabdarea-320x240.jpg 320w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>     R\u0103bdarea \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 iarba nu cre\u0219te mai repede dac\u0103 tragi de ea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Psih. <strong>Ileana Z\u0103rnescu<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nimic nu va mai fi la fel.Via\u021ba va fi tr\u0103it\u0103 altfel, iar noi va trebui s\u0103 ne acomod\u0103m cu acest \u201ealtfel\u201d. Pentru acest \u201ealtfel\u201d, va trebui s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m ce este r\u0103bdarea. Oare ne-am \u00eentrebat vreodat\u0103 ce este r\u0103bdarea? R\u0103bdarea este cu siguran\u021b\u0103 o virtute. Totodat\u0103, r\u0103bdarea este o abilitate, pe care o putem cre\u0219te. 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